If you want to take off about 20 lbs of weight., try forgiveness. When we harbour hard feelings, it weighs us down and causes undo stress. That same stress turns into life altering manifestations which affect us negatively. Forgiveness on the other hand, opens up a life of freedom which can be duplicated by nothing. Try it.
When you recognize that there is an imbalance in life, the only way to fix it is to look into yourself and fix what you see. That action is the key to change. Anything else will lead you down the same road, again and again.
Look into yourself. Take stock of what you can fix in you. Once that is done, look how the new you can now help others do the same thing.